Posts Tagged ‘Rationalization (making excuses)’

Sometimes people feel lost inside, like they have no idea what to do in life or that they have no purpose. Those people could not be more wrong. Everyone has to have a purpose in life because of the terms “God makes no mistakes”, and “Everything happens for a reason”. Even if you don’t believe in those sayings, just simply look around you. There are so many problems in the world and so much bad, and you wish that you could do something about it. Well, the most simplest thing make the biggest difference. You don’t have to be a Doctor, Scientist, Astronaut, etc… to make a difference or have a purpose. Every mother has a purpose, everyone that has given a compliment has a purpose, etc… I have been down in the dumps myself and have felt like I have no idea why I am alive or what purpose I could serve, and then it hit me. I am a good writer, so I wrote. I am a supporter of the Gay community, so I started supporting more. Just simple thinks like that made me feel better about myself and my life. Then when people started reading my stuff and telling me how much it helped them, I felt even better. It is not about how big or small something is that you do, it is just that you do it, that counts. There are so many opportunities in this world, and so few people use any of them to help themselves or anyone else. There is always someone who has it worse than you do, and there are people who truly have no options or opportunities. There is really no reason to be depressed or down in the dumps, or contemplating if life is worth living, even though we all have our reasons and our stories. Most everyone is guilty of being or feeling this way and it is truly okay and understandable; we are human after all. Yet, if we would just step back from the mirror and take a look at the bigger picture, we may just turn our lives around, and maybe the lives of others. 

Problems are all around us. We have had problems since the dawn of time, and will continue to have problems until the end of time. The rich, the Poor, Gay, Straight, Bi, Male, and Female. It does not matter who you are or what you are, we all have problems. It is not the problems that count, it is the situation your in, how you analyze it, and the decisions you make to fix the problem at hand. Yeah, most people wanna take the most easiest rout they can to fix a problem and that is what is so wrong with everything today. The Government, Religion, Marriages, etc… everyone is just taking the easy rout. The problems at hand may have a story behind it that makes you want to take the easy rout but the truth is, every problem has a story behind it and we just wanna use every excuse possible to take the easy rout out. We cannot see the future to see if the decision we make are the right ones, but that is why we must view the problem, look at all of our options and make the best decision we can to solve the problem. Yeah, it may be the wrong choice and that is okay, that is called a mistake and humans are allowed to make mistakes. We all learn from our mistakes and we can then make a better decision the next time around. Then again, the decision we make may just be the right one and have wonderful benefits. Yet we will never know until we try and solve the problem, and make that decision, and put into play, will we ever know if it was the right one or not. There are always problems that we cannot solve. Not because of lack of effort or people, it is just the problem is to big and there is as many messing up as there is cleaning up and the problem just never gets solved but that should never stop anyone from trying to fix there problem. We can come up with the most complex excuse to get out of doing something, yet why not put that time and effort into solving the problem and moving on. So many people in this world has some form or type of the depression, and making excuses to not solve a problem is the 1st thing they teach you not to do in counseling. No matter how big or complicated the problem may be, just take a step back and view it, look at all your options, and know what kind of outcome you want and fix the problem. Everyone has them and someone somewhere has it a whole lot worse than me or you do and they know how to make a decision to fix a problem.